Hi gang! Back for another dose of TheFrugalSamurai? Of course you are!
Last night, one of MrsTheFrugalSamurai-to-be’s close friends held an event which consisted of a splatter party followed by an intimate dinner (intimate as in with other close friends, not just with MrsTheFrugalSamurai-to-be).
Unfortunately I couldn’t attend the splatter party because a) I had something on which I couldn’t get out of and b) I was mis-informed by MrsTheFrugalSamurai-to-be:
“Hey, come to a splatter party on Saturday”.
“You know, a party with paint”.
“NICE – you mean paintball?! I LOVE PAINTBALL!!!”
“No, its not paintball, it’s a party with paint, you paint”.
“… so like a renovation?
It was only later when I was kindly informed that a splatter party is where you paint people with paint, a most bemusing concept.
At dinner, the men were left in the corner whilst the ladies excitedly mingled and chatted amongst themselves.
One of the guys there just returned from an overseas trip where he was scouting potential manufacturing sites to create his own fashion label. A pretty out there thing to do, I thought seeing as his normal day job is in real estate.
A couple of things he said really struck me though:
“You know, it’s all about the small things – I mean, I’ve had this thought for the best part of 2, 3 years and never did anything, just kept on saying I will do it.
At the same time as I was planning to go on my trip my friends also planned a once-in-a-lifetime holiday to South America for 5 weeks so it was really a case of one or the other.
I thought I’ll probably never get the chance to act on this dream ever again and decided to just start to do something – basically bought the plane tickets and locked myself in”.
And he continued:
“I have a friend who is always grumpy with life – he always gets jealous with other people’s success.
Someone creates a successful app – oh I could have done that, someone becomes a YouTube star – oh we can do that, this is how, someone makes a lot of money from starting their own business – oh it’s so easy, anyone can make a lot of money doing that.
But he has not done anything forever, and that’s it though, people don’t do anything, they say this and they say that but they don’t do it – you just have to do something, anything”.
Such profound words – I couldn’t believe it, this guy stated exactly what I was thinking!
Now hang on a minute – what if you don’t want to create a successful app or become a YouTube star or make a lot of money from your own business?
That’s perfectly OK, no one is forcing you to do something you don’t want to do, you gotta do you.
To quote another scholarly friend “I just want to earn $150k per year and live an easy life with a loving wife, two kids and good friends”.
But if you want to, as in really want to – please do yourself a favour and stop talking about it, take action, do something, anything to just get started.
You’d be amazed how things snowball from there with a small step.
Shit, but I don’t have the time, I’m scared of losing money, I’m so comfortable where I am, I don’t know where to begin.
All so true and so valid. I learnt a long time ago that us humans are motivated by two feelings, either running towards pleasure or running away from pain.
Out of these two, the survival instinct of running away from pain is exponentially more stronger than running towards pleasure. Would you have sex in a burning house? Probably not.
Changing the status quo means moving out of our comfort zone – that means pain.
What you’re feeling is normal, hell when I first started this blog, I had no clue what I was doing, whether people would enjoy my posts, what people would say about me, if I could sustain blogging.
But you know what, I started and to me that’s a win. That’s all that matters really – I said I will start blogging and here I am.
Believe me, I am more technologically challenged than the majority of people so if I can churn out content on a blog, you can create an app, become a YouTube star, make a lot of money from your own business.
You just have to begin to do something. Anything.
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P.S. I’ve decided on mixing up the posts between the journey with anecdotal pieces of events which have transpired in the current day. So forgive me if you were expecting another installment of the journey – I’ll definitely be continuing that series.