Back again guys!
I hope everyone enjoyed my previous post – the one where I gave myself a good paper-cut and squeezed some lemon juice onto old memories just for your viewing pleasure.
There’s been a fair amount of messages about that episode, mainly around what I did next, what I learnt, what I’m wearing when I type out a post.
To be frank (Anne – come and find me, oh dear “shakes head”) I took that hit pretty hard.
I mean it wasn’t like I blinked twice slowly and then continued with whatever I was doing, it was a good 18 months or so before I could contemplate investing again and recovered my nest egg sufficiently to be in a position to do so.
Here are the CRUCIAL lessons I’ve learnt:
$40,000 can be earned back.
At the time, $40,000 represented the vast majority of my net wealth – to have it disappear was a crushing blow to self-confidence and your sense of worth, especially if you have grown up in austerity. For a long time afterwards, I’ve thought about what I can do with $40,000 – even now, wouldn’t $40,000 make a difference to your life?
Fact is though, I was fortunate in the sense that this occurred early in my income generating years. You can recover from a bottom line hit of $40,000 when you have the next 30 or 40 years of earning capacity to make up for it.
I saved and scrounged and was back to that mark just over a year later.
Learn to control your emotions.
In investing there’s a mantra which is don’t get emotional. Yep, got it – up, down, sideways – doesn’t matter, just don’t get emotional.
So easy to say when you’re not actually involved – “My shares tripled overnight!” Are you a noob? Don’t get emotional. “Oh shit, I lost $40,000” It’s OK, don’t get emotional. Fuck off don’t get emotional – only a machine or pulse-less being does not become emotional when it’s their money at stake.
The best traders, the best money managers, the best investors – they all get emotional, we are humans, we all have emotions.
True success is how you control your emotions to generate superior returns. Not “don’t get emotional” – it’s not possible with our
psyiology, pyhsiology, with our genetic makeup.
I did not learn to control my emotions, not when I was up $40,000, not when I was down $40,000.
Why didn’t you stop the train?
A few people have asked me, Hey, TheFrugalSamurai, why didn’t you just sell out when you were, you know, not down $40,000?
A very good question – it wasn’t like that $50,000 position (I had $50k invested in that sucker, lost it, but had $10k from other positions so net $40k loss) decided to play hide and seek one day and disappeared, it went something like this:
OH YEAH BABY – GOOD TIMES ROLLIN IN -> at this point I was flying (proverbially) and happy and life was good.
WHEW – LEMME TAKE A BREATHER -> of course, that’s fine – you’ve worked hard recently and you deserve a break or two.
OOPS – MISSED A STEP THERE, DON’T MIND ME -> hmm OK, you’ll still take me out to dinner Friday night right?
HA, HA – HAD TOO MUCH TO DRINK LAST NIGHT, I’M GOOD NOW -> of course you are, always believed in you.
UM – SO ABOUT LAST NIGHT -> …. yes?
NOTHING, NOTHING FALSE ALARM -> t…tell me.
SO I SLEPT WITH YOUR SISTER AND NOW WE ARE MARRIED -> WTF
The warnings were there of course, but being naive and inexperienced I had nothing to go off.
When the position was moving down slightly, I didn’t bother to check why.
When the position was moving down a lot, I left it there thinking it will come back.
When the position wasn’t even moving anymore, I thought, I’ve come this far – no point in selling out now.
It was only when the position wasn’t there anymore that reality hit me like a wave.
Money is just money.
I’m learning this lesson every day as I become older – when I lost that $40,000 wow did I feel shit. The world was a darker place, the birds and the bees weren’t as chirpy anymore and this spiralled into other dimensions of my life.
But you know what, money’s just numbers on a screen or pieces of paper. Of course its important and of course its what makes the world go round – but end of the day it’s only one facet of life. The world spins with or without you.
Do my family stop loving me because I lost money? Do my friends stop being my friends because I lost money? Does me dog stop being so excited to see me because I lost money?
Nah – life goes on, we all have setbacks in life. It’s about climbing out of the abyss and constantly learning from your mistakes.
It’s what you do next that counts.
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